Crying may be a sign of overload in children

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Dear Dr. Vicki:

I have two children a 6 year old and a two year old. The 6 year old seems to cry for anything. He cries when he has to do his homework, when he has to take a shower, etc. I sometimes think he is crying because he sees my 2 year old cry. Why do children cry often like mine? I don’t understand. He doesn’t listen. Even his Kinder teacher is having problems with him doing his work at school? I don’t know what to do.

Dr. Vicki’s response:

Your child sounds like he very well may be overwhelmed!   Going into kindergarten is a tremendous transition year for children.  Some children are just not quite ready to go to school and meet the demands of the classroom, just because the educational policy says they are according to their birthday.  I have some concerns about being too academic with our little children; homework in kindergarten is very disturbing. If he’s overwhelmed in school and then needs to come home and do more work, no wonder he’s crying! Like so many children I am seeing in the office, he may need some extra time before he is placed in the school environment.  That doesn’t mean he isn’t intelligent; it simply means that he needs more time to develop the maturational skills required to attend kindergarten.  Either that, or perhaps you might look for a kindergarten experience that is less academically based and give him some more time to be a kid and develop the maturity he needs to be in an academically demanding environment.  At home, I would not force him to do ‘work’ or ‘homework.’  The last thing you want is for him to develop a disdain for school!  Back off the demands, and go back to reading to him, singing ABC’s, playing fun, educational games and allow him to grow into his time to learn.   If you are not sure of what to do, you may want to seek the advice of a child psychologist in your area who can evaluate his skill levels and make a more informed decision.

Enjoy your kids!

Have any other suggestions for this mom?  What do you think is going on and what might she do?  Please feel free to comment below.

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6 Responses to “Crying may be a sign of overload in children”
  1. sami says:

    i’ve 2 year old child n he cries when he goes to school ,,how can i stop him from crying.
    help

  2. nancy says:

    This may sound too simple but I’d try a slightly earlier bedtime. Kids can handle things better when they are well rested. Going to bed thirty minutes earlier each night would not cost a thing and it might help a little bit.

  3. Dr. Vicki Panaccione says:

    Sometimes the simple solutions are the best! Thank you for your suggestion. Enjoy your kids!

  4. Kyle says:

    Why send your kids to school? Why not keep them home and home school them? They will be better off and not so overwhelmed. My daughter is 6 and she rarely cries. The only time she does is when she gets injured or when she is overly tired. My 15 yr old step son has been home schooled as well as my now 17 yr old step son who was 16 when he was fully enrolled in college. We don’t do the “traditional” schooling (6 subjects a day). They do reading, writing and arithmetic and everything else he learns on his own. My 15 yr old had been doing psychics since he was 10 and he wasn’t told what he was doing until he was done building his contraption.

    Granted home schooling isn’t for everyone but it is an option that I would highly recommend. That way you can teach and raise your kid(s) how you see fit and NOT by the school system.

  5. Dr. Vicki Panaccione says:

    Thank you for your comments. Home-school is a wonderful option for many families.

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