Parents Want to be Better Parents in 2011
Kids are From Krypton, Parents are from Pluto: Radio Series Update: January 6, 2011
With the start of the New Year, I have had many parents voice a desire to be a better parent in this New Year of 2011. What do I say? I tell them that they are already good parents! If they weren’t, they wouldn’t care about doing it better!
So, to help you have an even better relationship with your kids in the New Year, here are my Top 10 Parenting Resolutions:
- Love your children unconditionally…and make sure they know that you always love them…no matter what they may be in trouble for.
- Be a good role model. Live your life like you want your children to live theirs.
- The best way to get your kids to listen is to listen to what they have to say.
- Make time with your children a top priority.
- Tune into their feelings—look beneath the inappropriate behavior and ask yourself, “How is he feeling?”
- Give your kids a nice send-off in the morning. It will make their day…and yours, too.
- Eat meals together as often as possible. This is a time to enjoy each other; no lectures or inquisitions, please!
- Schedule down time.
- Catch them being good. Make it a point to say something positive to each member in the family at least once a day.
- Be specific in what you want your kids to do. “Be good,” is very vague. And tell them what you want them to do, rather than what you don’t want them to do (i.e.–” Keep your hands to yourself” is much more positive than “Don’t hit.”)
And, just as important as setting intentions for what you are going to do with your kids are the very important intentions you make for yourself…yes, you. And, I don’t mean lose weight, get organized, clean out the closets. I mean some things you do for you. Here are just a few:
- Get more sleep. I don’t care how you do it—just make sure that you get enough rest to function well during the day.
- Take time for yourself. Have lunch with a friend, take a yoga class, plant flowers, soak in a hot tub. Do something that makes your heart sing!
- Take time for you and your mate. Plan a monthly date night, meet for lunch, take walks after dinner, ship the kids to a friend’s house and—no this is not the time to get more sleep– make mad passionate love without worrying about waking the kids.