Teenage Sexting: A Language All Its Own

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Following my blog on Teenage Sexting, I have had numerous requests from parents for acronyms to BOLO—Be On the Lookout. Your teens and tweens have a new language all their own, in the form of symbols and abbreviations that they are constantly texting to one another. As a parent, it’s important for you to become savvy to the kinds of messages that may be a cause for alarm.

After searching the Internet, I have come up with the lists below. The first (and much tamer list, I might add) is from Mary Jo Rapini, author of “Start Talking: A Girl’s Guide for You and Your Mom About Health, Sex or Whatever.” In an interview on Examiner.com, Ms. Rapini offered up this primer on teenage sexting codes:

121: One to one
143: I love you
182: I hate you
2c4u: Too cool for you
2H2H: Too hot to handle
2M2H: Too much to handle
303: Mom
420: Marijuana
4GM: Forgive me
CD9: Parent in room
99: Parent has left
A3: Anyplace, anywhere, anytime
Addy: Address
AH: At home
AOC: Available on cell
ASL: Age, sex, location
ASLP: Age, Sex, Location, Picture
AWT: At what time
AYSOS: Are you stupid or something
DOC: Drug of choice

In addition, there are numerous lists circulating on line about teenage sexting, including this one—with a warning for some R-rated language.

Top 50 list of Teenage Sexting Messages:

8 – Oral sex
1337 – Elite
143 – I love you
182 – I hate you
459 – I love you
1174 – Nude club
420 – Marijuana
ADR – Address
ASL – Age/Sex/Location
Banana – Penis
CD9 – Code 9 – it means parents are around
DUM – Do You Masturbate?
DUSL – Do You Scream Loud?
FB – F*** Buddy
FMLTWIA – F*** Me Like The Whore I Am
FOL – Fond of Leather
GNOC – Get Naked On Cam
GYPO – Get Your Pants Off
IAYM – I Am Your Master
IF/IB – In the Front -or- In the Back
IIT – Is It Tight?
ILF/MD – I Love Female/Male Dominance
IMEZRU – I Am Easy, Are You?
IWSN – I Want Sex Now
J/O – Jerking Off
KFY -or- K4Y – Kiss For You
kitty – Vagina
KPC – Keeping Parents Clueless
LMIRL – Let’s Meet In Real Life
MOOS – Member Of The Opposite Sex
MOSS – Member(s) Of The Same Sex
MorF – Male or Female
MOS – Mom Over Shoulder
MPFB – My Personal F*** Buddy
NALOPKT – Not A Lot Of People Know That
NIFOC – Nude In Front Of The Computer
NMU – Not Much, You?
P911 – Parent Alert
PAL – Parents Are Listening
PAW – Parents Are Watching
PIR – Parent In Room
POS – Parent Over Shoulder -or- Piece Of Sh**
PRON – Porn
Q2C – Quick To Cum
RU/18 – Are You Over 18?
RUH – Are You Horny?
S2R – Send To Receive
SorG – Straight or Gay
TDTM – Talk Dirty To Me
WYCM – Will You Call Me?

Netlingo.com is also a good source for decoding teenage sexting acronyms and jargon. The site lets you search individual terms and also sells downloadable guides, including “The List: A Parent’s Guide to Internet Lingo” and “Top 50 Internet Acronyms Parents Need to Know.”

So what do you think about the new Teenage Sexting  Lingo? Have you come across any other acronyms to share with other parents?

Please feel free to leave a comment about Teenage Sexting below.


27 Responses to “Teenage Sexting: A Language All Its Own”
  1. Andrea says:

    Ok I am by no means old, still in late 20’s and OMG I’ve never seen these abbreviations before!!! If I had a child I really wouldn’t know what to think of these. I’d just assume kids being kids!!!

  2. Jenni & Jody says:

    Thank you, thank you! Our young people live in a very different world than the one we grew up in, and parents NEED to be wise and well educated. We will surely direct our readers to your site.

  3. Dr. Vicki Panaccione says:

    Thank you for your comments! For more techno-savvy information, check out http://www.parentingtodayskids.com

  4. Dr. Vicki Panaccione says:

    That’s exactly why parents need to keep up to date!

  5. Patrick says:

    I’m 20 years old…21 in August and let me just give anyone reading this a heads up: NO ONE talks like this. Remember that teenagers are just young people…trying to sound or act sexy or whatever. They won’t say the things above because they are tacky and horrible, so why would they abbreviate them?

    Quick aside…you shouldn’t go through your kid’s phone. You know you shouldn’t but you do anyway and that’s sad. You were a stupid kid and you turned out…mostly alright, yes? Stop trying to be the parent your mom/dad never was and enjoy your life!

  6. Jess says:

    I dont know how old the person that wrote the article is, much less the ages of the responders here, but you’ve got to be kidding me! I read through these “sexting” abbreviations and, I’m sorry, I started laughing. A good portion of these abbreviations aren’t sexting exclusive. In fact the majority of their uses have nothing to do with sex.

    ASL? Seriously? Are you one of those people that puts “yes please” on a doctor form for the “sex m/f” blank? That’s been around longer than I’ve been alive as a gamer and chat introduction.

    I want to throw a wet tissue at the person that put 1337 as a sexting code. Jeez, do better research or play an online game for an hour. 1337 is indeed code for elite (31337 > 1337; elite > leet), but I’m sorry it doesn’t mean your penis is 1337. Lol ( no that isn’t a sext either). 1337 has to do with a popular form of Internet speech that was derived (stolen) from an old infamous hacker communication system. What on gods green earth does that have to do with sex? Nothing. Numbers and symbols translate to specific letters of the english language.

    The I love/hate you makes me roll my eyes.

    ADR I’m not going to retype asl

  7. Jess says:

    Banana? Okay I’ll admit that one refers to penis but that is by far the simplest term, there are hundreds of others.

    Fb has more than two different and non sexual meanings.

    Nalopkt, um, alrighty I don’t know why that’s on the list either.

    Nmu aka nm is a response to “what’s up?” so X that one too unless you want to change the meaning to buy muncher ( joking please don’t)

    Pron/pr0n is an Internet joke :-/ sorry

    The ones with “or” are easily written with / or just skip the “or”

    The rest is in my “I guess” category.. Though honestly most people that want to hide sexting just lock their phone or delete the conversation.. Or use a third party program through the Internet or phone/gadget app to make an easy parent block. Most abbreviations are just used because texters are typing-lazy in general because texting is slow. I mean we abbreviate texting as txting to save a letter.

  8. Jess says:

    Last post hopefully; the entire first list has nothing to do with sex unless you specifically use it in sexual context, but every English word is susceptible to that so don’t bother memorizing it.

    I guess doc is really the only thing you don’t want to see, but that isn’t the only meaning…

    All of these abbreviations are used by people that don’t know anything about real Internet interaction. I kind of cringe at even seeing them. I guess you could compare it to a toddler trying to drive the car; cute but not of any skill level.

  9. a says:

    This is incredibly hilarious. None of these are even close to what actually gets sent, it simply matches a handful of possible combinations. Especially the numeric codes, they are changed regularly. BTW, any tech-savvy teen will be using public-private key encryption so unless you invade their web of trust its unlikely it’s possible to view the messages.

  10. Dr. Vicki Panaccione says:

    Even scarier! Thank you for your insights.

  11. Dr. Vicki Panaccione says:

    There’s some great advice here. If parents feel that they have to go through their kids’ phones, then there is a trust issue that is bigger than who they are calling or texting! Thank you for your input.

  12. Dr. Vicki Panaccione says:

    Thank you for enlightening my readers. I am glad that you are not of the group of people who use these codes for the meaning that is listed in the article. I’m sure there are many interpretations to the codes used—and each group of kids probably come up with many of their own. Kind of like inside jokes or the “language/secret codes” that kids came up with in past decades to communicate without having the grown-ups understand.

  13. Dr. Vicki Panaccione says:

    You seem to be very committed to set the record straight. I welcome any comments/corrections/enlightenments you might have. Remember, this was one person’s research into the meaning of sexting codes. I see that you have a different understanding of many of them. I’m sure there are others, as well.

  14. Dr. Vicki Panaccione says:

    You cringe, yet keep responding. Thank you for your wisdom. I hope that you are correct in pointing out that most teens don’t use these terms. I find many of them pretty ridiculous, myself!

  15. M says:

    I’m a teen and this make me laugh soo much because i and my friends never use this and we didn’t use it…there is a thing called privacy…i admit that some of us are not afraid to talk to our parent about sex…but this..this just says that some people don’t trust their parent.

  16. teenwhosnotanidiot says:

    I’m a teenager and I haven’t even heard of most of these codes. Plus if you check your teen’s phone, they’re just going to constantly delete all texts. Anyone with sense will at least. What you actually should do is convince us teens of the dangers of sexting, not invade your kid’s privacy.

  17. Dr. Vicki Panaccione says:

    I am so happy to see teens commenting on this site. I appreciate you setting us straight about how it is for you! I am so glad to hear that you can talk to your parent about things like sex….I wish that all teens had tat kind of relationship with their parents. Thanks again for commenting!

  18. Dr. Vicki Panaccione says:

    You are absolutely right! Thank you so much for commenting. I wish that all teens would learn the dangers of sexting and make good, informed decisions. Thanks again.

  19. Smores says:

    This is sad. I looked at this and I laughed, because truthfully, I text all the time and I know for a fact that these are almost NEVER used, and the ones that are have NOTHING to do with sex. Banana, does indeed refer to the penis, but the others? This makes no sense. Whoever spent their time making this list, I feel bad that you wasted your time in an attempt to “keep teens safe and parents informed” because you failed.
    teens do not use this, they are cheesy and whoever does is simply lazy. Truthfully if you want to sext it’s sad that you have to use these to do it, considering that when you sext you want to be turned ON. These are just embarrassing and nasty. Most teens would rather just be explicit about it, and teens have found new ways to either hide their phone or simply delete messages.
    To the person who wrote this, it’s a good effort but, like the teens say, EPIC FAIL.

  20. Lillie says:

    I’m 17 years old… and I knew 2 maybe three of these. This is disgusting and I am personally ashamed of my generation. just yuck.

  21. Dr. Vicki Panaccione says:

    Well, I’m glad to hear you didn’t know them!

  22. Dr. Vicki Panaccione says:

    Thank you for your comments. I have had several responses such as yours. This blog has certainly stirred up a lot of commenting! I am delighted to hear that not only have you not heard of these…but also have not used “cheesy” ways of expressing yourself. I agree that sexting can be a way to feel “turned on” in a relationship. However, many, many teens are having sex without the romance, the seduction, and so on. They just have sex. And, a lot of their texting is an example of just how unromantic and vulgar their sexual acts and rendezvous’ actually are. Good for you for not debasing yourself to this low level of communication.

  23. Mickey says:

    I’m 16 and when I do be sexting I use none of the above listed. I have a program on my phone where the messages don’t show unless the code and fingerprint matches . And to tell the truth, I don’t think anyone uses those codes; I’m from the Caribbean so I know in the U.S. they are way smarter than to be so obvious and half of those codes are for gaming purposes ….. Better luck next time on trying to get into a mind of a teen.

  24. Dr. Vicki Panaccione says:

    Hi, Mickey–Glad you visited my website and read this article. I appreciate your comments. As you know, I was sharing this information that another author had written…so it was not my attempt to get into the mind of a teen. Instead, I wanted parents to have this information in case it was relevent to their situation with their kids. I am delighted to hear that you do not use these codes…they are pretty base and vulgar. I do not know about the app on your phone that needs a fingerprint match to read it. Sounds very high-tech to me…and I’m not sure what anyone would write in a text message that would warrant so much protection—but I am glad you feel that your privacy is protected. Again, I appreciate your comments; please feel free to read and comment on other blogs on this site any time you’d like.

  25. Damian says:

    Really liked what you had to say in your post, Teenage Sexting: A Language All Its Own : Better Parenting Institute, thanks for the good read!
    — Damian


  26. fbu says:

    Lol not a single kid does thus… if they do sext it’s actual words

  27. Dr. Vicki Panaccione says:

    I’m glad that in your circle of friends, you actually use words or don’t sext at all.