“I don’t like you, Mommy”

Kudos for this boy’s parents, who let him say what he feels.  Many parents would get angry or have their feelings hurt if their kids said, “I don’t like you, Mommy!”  But usually, they are either simply expressing anger, or as in this case, qualifying what deserves loving.  It’s important to teach your kids about unconditional love—you love them all the time,... 

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Use the rod…Spoil the Child—The Spanking Controversy!

May 3, 2010 by  
Filed under Discipline, Parenting

Kids are from Krypton; Parents are from Pluto Radio series update April 29: Did you know that kids who are spanked on a regular basis are more likely to have low self-esteem, depression, lower grades and consequently lower paying jobs? Spanked kids are more aggressive when younger, tend to grow up to spank their kids, learn not only that it’s OK to hit when angry, but it’s also permissible to... 

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Is Anger OK?

April 24, 2010 by  
Filed under Parenting

Teach your kid that anger is okay!

Radio series update April 22: Last week we discussed the importance of getting in touch with your own anger, and ways strategies for dealing with it. This week was all about your kids…why they get angry, how they deal with it and what to do about it. Because kids basically get in trouble for ‘being angry,’ most think that anger is not OK. In other words, it’s bad to be angry. Your job is... 

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Managing Your Anger As a Parent

April 16, 2010 by  
Filed under Discipline, Parenting

Angry Mom

Radio Series Update April 15: What’s so wrong with being angry? A look at anger from the parents’ perspective. The last couple of weeks, we have been discussing how parents sabotage their own authority, by allowing themselves to be doormats, being inconsistent and not following through with what they say. We also noted that while the topic of this segment series is discipline, we haven’t even... 

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Anger Issues with Your Child

April 2, 2009 by  
Filed under Ask Dr. Vicki, Discipline

Dear Dr. Vicki, I have an 11 year old daughter and am trying to help her with “anger management”. So far we have been doing better with talking about it, and (she’s) counting to 10, taking deep breathes, walking away. . . .and I have tried to be calm in responding and then I “ignore” any junk behavior. Then I go on to a “normal” question and she seems to fall... 

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Win or lose…just get over it

November 4, 2004 by  
Filed under Teenagers/Tweens

Is it safe? Can we come out and play now? Are the grownups still mad at each other? Dr. Vicki Panaccione says the immediate aftermath of an election as polarizing as this one, with the nation at war, can be a fearful moment for the losers. “People have been more passionate about this election than any I’ve seen, and no matter which side you’re on, I think that anger can turn to fear,”... 

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