Happy Mother’s Day

May 12, 2010 by  
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How was your Mother’s Day? Lovely, I hope. Filled with flowers, hearts and good behavior from the kids? How is your day today? Still full of hearts and flowers…or back to the same old, same old?

Do your days go something like this?:

“Johnny, did you hear me?”

“I hate you!”

“How many times do I have to tell you…?”


“Apologize to your sister!”

“I wish I was never born.”

“You did what???”


“I don’t care.”

“I feel like I’m beating my head against the wall…”

“I’m stupid.”

“Clean your room.”

“You don’t understand.”

“Go to bed!”

“He started it!”

“Just ignore it.”

Sound familiar?

Day after day I see families in my office whose children treat their parents with hostility and defiance. Or with disregard. The lack of respect for authority is rampant. And parents oftentimes feel powerless, and overwhelmed. “What can I do?” is a frequent lament that I hear. Many parents have abdicated their authority, and their children are growing up with disrespect.

And then, once a year, these same children stop and ‘honor’ their mothers. Sure, flowers, breakfast in bed and homemade or store-bought cards and gifts are wonderful. It’s nice to be treated with respect and appreciation.

But once a year is not enough!

Once a year is hypocrisy.

Now don’t get me wrong. I think special days should be celebrated. Like birthdays, anniversaries, life cycle events. They deserve some extra celebration. However, it is not enough to honor, show appreciation and respect just once a year. These are life lessons that need to be taught to our children, and modeled and practiced on a regular basis. The year should be full of acts of kindness, celebrations of our children and parents, appreciation for one another and cooperation and partnership within the family.

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