How Successful Do You Want Your Kids To Be?

September 17, 2010 by  
Filed under Child Development, Parenting

Share |

Steps toward meeting your goals

Kids Are From Krypton Parents Are From Pluto Radio update Sept. 16, 2010: It is important to teach your kids how to set goals, and develop the steps they need to reach them.  Without goals, there is little opportunity to experience the feelings of success about something they have worked hard to achieve.

Encourage them to set goals.  If a child voices a desire, either for something he wants to get, do, or become, support that desire, and voice confidence in his ability to achieve it.  Then, establish a plan.

Teach how to break down the goal into various steps. Develop the steps necessary to reach the goal.  If it’s a good grade, discuss study strategies; if it’s a possession, discuss ways to earn it; if it’s a role in a play or winner of the spelling bee, discuss the steps to take to be successful.

Praise the efforts—regardless of the end result. Even if the desired goal was not reached, it was the process he went through that was important to learn. Efforts come before success; so, reward him for following his plan, no matter what the outcome.

Review what worked and what didn’t work. Help him look at what he did right, and what he might have done differently.  Sometimes there isn’t anything.  Then, he learns a valuable lesson—you don’t always succeed, but it’s always important to put your sights on something and go after it; and feel good about the trying.

Encourage developing a new goal. If the child develops a defeatist attitude, then parents can help him define a new goal that they feel is realistic to achieve.


  1. Talk to your kids about their goals and desires.
  2. Explore how theirs are the same/different than yours.
  3. Identify ways that they can strive for and reach their goals.
  4. Recognize that your kids have to find their own sense of success.
  5. Show your kids you love them…through your words and your actions.

Enjoy your kids!

Radio For Women


6 Responses to “How Successful Do You Want Your Kids To Be?”
  1. Maria says:

    So much valuable imformation, This is what really has value in life, Not electronic devices, etc., etc….

  2. Sheilah says:

    Thanks for the great advice!!

  3. I like the 5 tips, Dr. Vicki. They are easy and give kids the attention they hunger for.

    I think the next step is to help them SEE, SENSE, and SAY their specific goal before they sleep at night and before they rise in the morning.

  4. Dr. Vicki Panaccione says:

    Great suggestions. Thank you for your comments!

  5. ciara says:

    The showing love thing should be a given. Even at a young age you can’t help but say well done when your child achieves a goal. You feel so proud. Just a shame the praise seems to stop when people become adults. I think people would be more likely to stay in employment if their work was recognised. The same for children; they will like school a lot more if they receive positive feedback.

  6. Dr. Vicki Panaccione says:

    I so agree. Everyone enjoys positive feedback. The world would be a much better place if we complained less and complimented more! Enjoy your kids!