Staying Connected in Changing Times

October 10, 2010 by  
Filed under Communication, Family, Parenting

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Kids Are From Krypton Parents Are From Pluto Radio Series update Oct. 7: Why is it that kids today can’t seem to make their beds…but they can make a website?  How come they can barely speak English, but learned text-speak in a snap?  Want to know what I think?  I think they’re mutants—yes, mutants!  This generation has been given an extra gene.  They have DNA and RNA like the rest of us, and they have one extra one—it’s called TNA—the Tech-No Advantage.  They know more than most of us about the tech-no world of today.  So, if you want to stay connected with your kids—find out what it’s like to be like each one of them.  Ask, listen and understand.

You don’t have to agree with everything they want to do…yet, it’s important to understand their world.  If you try to make decisions based on the standards of your upbringing, you’re going to be out of touch.  It’s like trying to use an old Chevy manual to tune up a hybrid.  It just isn’t equipped…not relevant anymore.  And, it’s the same with your kids.  They are hybrids…can’t tune them up with an old set of standards.  So, ask your kids—and once you understand, then you can make decisions and set limits based on being informed, rather than using an old manual.

You need to know that today’s kids text—they don’t call their friends.  They are also under a lot of pressure to grow up way before their time…and exposed to much more in the media, school and on the playground of which we were not even aware.  Our kids are living in an R-rated world, from a PG or PG-13 maturity level.  They are under a great deal of stress, pressure and whirlwind of change.  We need to help them be successful in their world—not ours.  So:  Ask and listen; acknowledge and appreciate and make decisions from a place of understanding…be willing to make compromises while still setting limits where you need to.

Top 5 Tips of the Week:

  1. Ask kids and listen to what it’s like to be them.
  2. Acknowledge and appreciate their sharing.
  3. Make decisions from a place of understanding and knowledge.
  4. Compromise whenever you can, creating a win/win.
  5. Show your kids you love them…through your words and actions.

Enjoy Your Kids!

Radio For Women


2 Responses to “Staying Connected in Changing Times”
  1. Great tips!

    …and if they don’t work you can always post the link to this article on their Facebook walls 😉


  2. Dr. Vicki Panaccione says:

    Love it!