The Problems with Parenting

January 22, 2011 by  
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One of the biggest problems with parenting is that it’s one ginormous paradox!

A paradox, an irony, a total contradiction every step of the way!

You know what I’m talking about…

Being a parent is the best, most rewarding experience in the whole wide world.

It’s also the toughest, most unappreciated experience in the whole wide world.

That’s one of the problems with parenting.  It can bring out the best in you and the worst in you.  You can feel elation and total frustration at the very same time.  It can bring out the whole spectrum of emotions.  And when they occur all at once, it can feel overwhelming.

So, here’s a paradoxical look at some of the problems with parenting :

  • Pleasurable and perplexing
  • Accomplishing and aggravating
  • Rewarding and reworking
  • Enjoyable and exasperation
  • Novel and nerve-wracking
  • Triumphs and tribulations
  • Imaginative and indecisive
  • Newness and never-ending
  • Gratifying and grappling

You can be pleased about how it’s going and perplexed about what went wrong.

There is a sense of accomplishment when your kids are doing well, and a feeling of aggravation when they’re not.

The rewards you get by watching your child flourish in the environment you provide, can quickly be squelched by the need to reevaluate and rework how you are doing in another parenting area.

Enjoyment and excitement are often mixed with exasperation and exhaustion.

The novelty of your child’s newly discovered abilities and behaviors can quickly wear off, as nerve-wracking competition sets in.

There will be celebrations of triumphs and commiseration over tribulations.

Imagining the outcome of your decisions is often interrupted by the irritation of indecision.

The newness of your role as parent can quickly give way to feelings that the task of child-rearing seems never-ending.

And all the gratification of your children’s successes can be overshadowed by all the grappling that it took to get there.

Sometimes you even may feel like running away and quitting, but you know that this is the one job that you will never leave.

But… Here’s another one of the biggest problems with parenting:

While you want your child to grow up to be an independent and self-sufficient adult…

In your heart, that adult will always be your baby.

Ah—One of the biggest problems with parenting is that it’s just one ginormous paradox!

Enjoy your kids!

What are some of the paradoxes that you have experienced?

Please feel free to leave a comment below about your problems with parenting!


One Response to “The Problems with Parenting”
  1. Andrea Andrews says:

    Not having any children, I sometimes consider a blessing! I see how my friends whether they be single parents or not handle the ups and downs of their children. I am Flabbergasted by how well they deal with the good times and the bad, as where I just run for the hills and won’t return for a few days or so! lol I couldn’t imagine being a parent now a days with the bullying, teasing, sexting, and other crimes that our society has bestowed upon the children of this country and the world. And then to always have that question in the back of your mind, “Am I being a good parent?”